Opinions please! Wedding Guest Outfit Emergency

Emergency is an overstatement.  But I would like your thoughts! One of my very dear friends is marrying a sweetheart of a girl on Friday and I am over the moon.  I was lucky enough to be there with the groom and help him buy the engagement ring, which was really one of the most wonderful things I have ever gotten to do with a friend.  (He picked very well!)  And now the big day is here...

I have the dress.  A gorgeous kimono maxi dress from Nicole Richie's Winter Kate collection in lovely purples, blues and greys (see below) and some lovely grey suede peep toe booties with ruffles down the front.  But I need help on hair, make-up and accessories.  So please see the picture of the dress below and then let me know your thoughts on the other options as follows...have a better idea, I'd love to hear it!

Now for hair...I know the easy option is to wear my now shoulder-length hair down, maybe tousle it a bit, and see if I can get my fringe to behave.  But thoughts on all the styles below is appreciated!

Make-up...this is an afternoon ceremony and evening reception.  I tend to be really drawn to the 1960s clean face and thick liner and wouldn't at all argue with that...

Accessories.  Or mostly do I wear my fascinator (guess it depends on the hairstyle?)